Nonbinary
Nonbinary individuals may identify as having a gender that is a combination of male and female, as having a gender completely outside of the male/female binary, or as having no gender at all.
Coming Out
Growing up as a nongendered person was a constant struggle of trying to understand myself and the world around me. From a young age, I never felt a connection to traditional gender roles or expectations.
As a teenager, I struggled to come to terms with my attraction to the same sex and how that fit into society's rigid ideas of gender and sexuality.
It wasn't until 1988, when I came out as a gay man, that I felt some sense of relief and acceptance. However, as I navigated the world as a gay man, I constantly battled gender expectations and homophobia.
I had to learn how to present myself in a certain way to fit in and be accepted, even if it wasn't authentic to who I was. It was a constant internal struggle that left me feeling disconnected from my true self.
Today
After the age of 40 or around 2010, my life as a nongendered person began to shift in a significant way. I began to embrace both masculine and feminine aspects of myself and let go of the need to fit into a traditional gender binary.
Technology played a significant role in this transformation, as it allowed me to connect with others who shared similar experiences and provided a platform for me to express myself in ways that felt authentic.
Through my relationship with my husband, I fully embraced the tender parts of myself that existed outside of traditional gender roles. His acceptance and love allowed me to let go of the need to conform and fully embrace my nonbinary identity.
Nonbinary
Nonbinary is the foundation of my identity. It represents the lack of duality and the continual quest for integration into everything.
OVERVIEW
Nonbinarism
Nonbinary is a gender identity that describes individuals who don't identify exclusively as male or female. Instead, they may identify as both, neither, or somewhere in between.
Our Expanding Community
Have you ever wondered how and why the LGBTQAI+ community continues to grow and evolve? When you consider how technology has allowed each of us to express who we are, it's only natural that gender would be part of this expansion.
Gender World
Community allows people to explore identity. Identity, at its core, is a part of understanding how your head, attraction, heart, and behavior align.
Relationship
With the evolution of community and the broadening of gender, we see a matrix of relationship possibilities allowing people to connect more intimately with people aligned with their heart identity.
CHRISTORY
🏳️⚧️ Growing Up Nongendered
Throughout my life, my gender identity has been a central aspect of who I am. Growing up in a household with a violent and traditional father, I often found myself more aligned with feminine characteristics and mannerisms.
As a child, I would mix and match my parents' clothing, and as I entered my teenage years, I delved into non-conforming gender expression in pop culture. Although the term "nonbinary" was not widely used at the time, I discovered the concept of two-spirit within Native American tribes, which resonated with my personal journey of self-discovery.
70s CHILD - 80s TEEN
👶🏻 The Formative Years
From the volatile 60s to the Aids crisis, coming out in a climate of destruction.
Traditional Nightmare
My parents tried. At least, I hope this is what effort looked like for them. My earliest memories of parties, drinking, and traditional roles filled a very orange and brown-colored home. I don't recall when I wasn't treated as an adult and given adult situations to manage.
Both and Neither
By the time I got to the 80s, I was starting to understand I was not attracted to boys or girls, but both. I was not feeling male or female, but neither and sometimes both.
Pop Life
The 80s allowed me an escape from technology and media. I became immersed in gender-nonconforming pop stars like Michael Jackson, Prince, Annie Lennox, and Madonna.
Coming out
As the decade ended, coming out as gay by going to a party in drag with my girlfriend left me homeless as my parents and friends decided that was not welcome. For weeks I lived in my truck in the mall parking lot.
👦🏼 Young "Man"
1970-1990: Radicalized and rebirth.
Radicalized
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Love and chaos
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Death and despair
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Meet Eva
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👨🏻🦰 Terror from within
1990 - 2010: Terror from within and pain from without.
Family "Man"
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Beaten and Batered
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A darker community
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Eva-lution
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🧔🏼♂️ Gender Blending
2010 - Today: Terror from within and pain from without.
The Change
By 2010 my body was changing. I was stopping smoking; I was taking care of myself, and starting to lose some of the 100lbs I had gained in my 20s and 30s.
Dysmorphia
The only thing more terrorizing than change is not recognizing yourself through it.
Integration
By 2014 I was learning to integrate my gender identity, body and mind this would start a period of deep contemplation and an exploration of Buddhism.
Tender
In 2016 I met my future husband and learned to embrace my tenderness and fear of a hostile world.
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Beyond Myself
To extend your understanding and my own commitment to the LGBTQAI+ community, below are two additional resources outside of my story. The first web services I built to help diverse tech talent find value-based, is called "The Unicorn Talent Universe". Finally a link to some of the people and moments that defined my communities history throughout the 1900s.
CAROUSEL OF IDENTITY
About me
My identity has formed in layers throughout my life, starting with my gender identity, moving through my neurotype into my relationship with technology, and finally landing in the realm of the spiritual as a practicing technopagan.
Nonbinary
Nonbinary is the foundation of my identity. It represents the lack of duality and the continual quest for integration into everything.
Neurodivergent
Neurodiversity is an integral part of my identity and journey in how I learned to adapt to and use technology as an accommodation.
Mindful Cyborg
Being a mindful cyborg has helped me extend my humanity beyond my physical and mental capacity by embracing technology as an extension of my values.
